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Re: Generation Y and my new direction

swingtrading2 — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:53:15 -0000

Interesting post. I have made a twitter post about this. Others no doubt will like it like I did.

Re: Why Ashton Kutcher doesn’t matter in social media

timbursch — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:09:15 -0000

Tyler,
Good thoughts. I business is starting to realize that profit is not everything. People want to make a difference. Customers want more than just a transaction. They want a relationship. That is more give and take than profit-focused business.
I think it will take people inside companies acting for change and customers taking their money to business that takes care of people...

Re: 3 things more important than human life

thetylerhayes — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 21:53:49 -0000

I think you're right that that perspective may relieve me of the emotional yuck, as you so eloquently put it ;) But just because there is emotional yuck, we must not look away from the darkness that is our innateness. We need to solve these issues. And there ARE solutions.

To be stubborn, and I'm very aware of my obstinacy on this one, I don't want to shy away. To me, that's copping out. Hopefully it's not to you, because without both of our bright minds and unique thoughts, the entire puzzle would never get solved.

I want to spend my time thinking about the big, stressing issues. I want to feel that sadness sink in, because it keeps me aware of the fact that I'm thinking about big issues. I don't want to stay sad - and I don't ;) - nor do I want to ignore narrower issues. But I am a big thinker, and I'm not going to fight it. It may upset me 24/7, but I'd much rather be stuck in my never-ending agitation than stirring among fruitless wanderings in which the majority of humanity seems so apt to hide.

Re: 3 things more important than human life

twitter-16687689 — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 14:10:04 -0000

I read, I see, I think I understand.

It is difficult to articulate exactly what I mean, but as much as the 'big issues' break my heart, the only part of this within my power of influence is you ~ which is the kind of perspective I think may relieve you of the emotional yuck these kinds of realizations often bring.

Here's an event in the next two weeks you could be a part of if you're interested in getting some hands on difference-making done: http://tinyurl.com/yjyhnat. I'd be happy to go with you if you wanted someone there you know. I've played at a few benefit concerts for the organization and was on staff at the church for a while. Plus your grandpa was the Mayor of Excelsior, so you TOTALLY belong. :)

Best!

Re: Generation Y and my new direction

keithprivette — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 11:28:58 -0000

Great post Tyler! Yes there is an art form in full on culitvation, growing, and replanting your networking with other people. The first step is to do what you suggested go up to someone and chat with them if you recongize them. I developed a wonderful chat with @breathingdakota Annette Johnson at the #unsummit based on we might be following each other on twitter.....we weren't but we are now and are building and cultivating to ensure our relationship grows!

Networking tip: BE YOURSELF! people will see through a bs really easy. Be Honest also, if you don't know something, don't care, or disagree say so, this honesty platform is a strong foundation to growing in many different directions!

Thanks for making me think once again Tyler......you know what we need to have a lunch or a coffee soon!

Re: Teach instead of answer

timbursch — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:53:35 -0000

Tyler,
Good thoughts. It really takes listening from the get-go. Not just being an expert and having all the answers, right? It seems like most professions could use some more training on asking questions and helping uncover the solution.
Take care,
Tim

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

thetylerhayes — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 23:25:20 -0000

Very cool, thanks for the clarification :)

I wonder if someone took the time to list all the potential activities for management & pruning, and then place them in either category, how much disagreement would there be on which category these things belong to?

I'd be willing to bet our parents have a slightly different take on all of this!

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

jenniewhite — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 20:42:16 -0000

"Social media is not about creating an image for yourself. It’s about creating a realistic extension of your real self, just online for people to see when they aren’t around you."

Sorry I wasn't clear about where I disagreed, I kind of got on a train of thought and just went with it. I prune my online identity because there certain aspects of "my real self" (offline) that I don't want my online network to see (when they're not around me). Like I said before, I don't think my Twitter followers need or want to see my sister's wedding or my exact location at 11pm on a Friday night.

So that being said, I think it's ok to "prune" pictures, exclude certain pictures on Facebook and delete wall posts because I want people to see the best side of me. I still take responsibility for my actions, I just don't broadcast them on the world wide web. I do however agree with you on deleting blog comments, they should be left untouched.

I hope that was clearer. What I am saying is I agree with you to a certain extent, but I also believe there's a gray area and that we need to prune in order to protect our privacy.

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

thetylerhayes — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 19:40:08 -0000

I think you and I might agree more than you imagine. I wrote this post 5 months ago and, while I still hold to its premise, I realize now that some of the examples may not be as appropriate as they once were. Strange how social media changes so quickly eh?

Thanks for the props. Would you mind just clarifying what it is that you disagree with? Was it the whole post or just certain parts?

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

jenniewhite — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:41:34 -0000

I have to disagree. I'll admit I "prune" a little bit here and there, not as much as I've seen some other people do. I agree with being transparent, no one should have an entirely different identity online, that's misleading and unfair to their network. But, I am not perfect, I make decisions that I don't want or need publicized on the Internet because evidently those imperfections shouldn't define me on the Internet.

Though my life outside of the Internet is constantly blending with my life on the Internet, people don't need to see me at things like my sister's wedding or family reunion. Not only am I protecting my privacy, I am protecting theirs as well. I am the same person I am on the Internet as I am in real life, but there are some things that I'd prefer to leave out. That's one of the reasons why I don't use Geo-Location apps like Foursquare because I don't want people knowing where I am at all times. I am not hiding anything, I am probably just at Starbucks, but why do my Twitter followers need to know that?

As for pictures go, your right I "untag" or choose to leave unflattering ones unpublicized, primarily because I am Gen Y and I am little self-conscious (maybe a little vein too). I am not creating and image, I am choosing my best aspects to being publicized online. Tyler I give you a lot of credit for strictly managing your reputation, definitely made me think about how I manage mine.

Re: Fighting your gifts, or growing up

Hampers — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 11:41:21 -0000

For info about your changing body and mind and the kinds of issues that is something growing up. Like your blog on growing up.

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

thetylerhayes — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:20:55 -0000

I just noticed those comments when I woke up this morning, and put a notice in to Disqus (my comments provider). They're actually from another post, so some functionality got messed up with a recent Disqus update it seems. Should get it figured out soon!

Re: Online reputation management vs. pruning

ariherzog — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:13:29 -0000

Speaking of outdated, how come comments here are months old?

Re: Pulling passion

twitter-16687689 — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:32:37 -0000

I think being passionate about being passionate (even if your passion-inspiration is a constant variable) is a relevant redundancy. I can relate to where you're coming from in struggling to pin it down to a form translatable ~ but I think it all boils down to just speaking your truth. Hammer it out every day and you'll be understood, related to, and eventually, even inspired. Thanks for getting the words out of your head. Personally, I'm working out what to write about/how to get started and think in circles much like this - your honesty is encouraging. :)

Re: Ten thousand years

Berna — Wed, 07 Oct 2009 16:32:49 -0000

My initial emotional response is sadness. If none of my posse will live to 10,020, then I'll friggin' pass.

Its interesting to sift through my own emotional response, just within the last ten minutes, and realize that nothing has come up except my concern for relationships. Am I gonna have to learn how to unlove, how to not be attached? Would I have to get used to the grief of others' deaths if I wanted to connect and share at all anymore?

And your initial response has got to say something about the keywords of your life -- kind of like in Sims 3, you can choose whether your Sim's life purpose is Money, Love, Career, etc? (Excuse me. My nerd is showing.) We definitely don't have ten thousand years, so why don't we spend the next 80-or-so doing only that which matters most - exploring, relaxing, supporting one's posse, whatever.

Speaking of humans seeing Earth: http://www.virgingalactic.com/flash.html?langua...
If we're wanting the big picture, I say we sign-up ASAP.

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

twitter-15394784 — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:08:00 -0000

Ha, I love how everyone chimes in their MBTI. I'm an ENFJ! Good luck with the goals. I know for me, I've been getting in a workout habit, but worked the knee a little too hard. Finally stepped in a pool for the first time in years to do laps this morning. I'm actually looking forward to my 5am swims now.

Check in with you later!

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

opheliaswebb — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 11:16:04 -0000

I was about to comment "Hey, I'm an INFP!" but then I remembered I'm actually an INTP. Far too many letters! :)

I'm assuming LifeTime must be a gym out where you are, not the girl movie channel. That's a pretty cool gift. Do you have plans for post one-month membership?

I really like your goals - they are very measurable and doable. I've seen a lot of other ones that are very vague or completely over-reaching. Good luck getting them done - "see" you at the mid-month mark. :)

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

thetylerhayes — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 15:52:27 -0000

Thanks so much Grace. Best of luck with your October goals, too :)

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

thetylerhayes — Sat, 03 Oct 2009 15:51:46 -0000

That's actually funny you should say that, as I've had the exact same thought for the last few months. Some things to consider:
- you may not be any less ENFP, maybe you're just surrounded by people who are even more E than you (social media, especially Twitter, can do this)
- like you implied, it's a sliding scale, so maybe we really are becoming more I than E. But that doesn't still mean you aren't an E :)
- I like how you say "missing being an ENFP," that's such a great way to put it! I wish I'd thought of that. Either way, it's a strange feeling isn't it? Maybe we're just yearning for the days of more self-expression and a world in which we could truly be as ENFP as we wanted; part of getting older is that we are given/earn more responsibility, and as such our jobs/spouses/daily lives require that we do things that may not fit into our ENFP lives as easily as we would like. We must still do these things, but after a while (my feeling at least) they can drain us quite a bit. Examples: going to the same job every day, not being able to just talk about stuff, people insulting us for being too "scatter-brained" and thus not productive enough (when, in fact, maybe we just have different internal processes and schedules).

It's rough, but it's life. Fun, eh? :) Those are just my thoughts anyway, take what you will. I'd love to know what you think!

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

Rebecca — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 13:25:34 -0000

I'm an ENFP too! Actually, I think I'm changing into an INFP that is missing being an ENFP. Sigh. Anyway, all of that to say, I can tell we're similar personality type because you phrase your goals like I would. Like, "how I want to redefine them." Awesome. Thanks for joining in!

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

GraceBoyle — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 13:03:28 -0000

Tyler, I'm glad you picked up on Rebecca's Monthly Goal Meetup (that's what it's for: sharing) and snagged my page from my recent post. The more the merrier. I wish you the best of luck on your goals. I really like the "research 10 hours on how charities work!"

Good luck :)

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

thetylerhayes — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 23:02:33 -0000

All good things. Let me know if I can help you in any way. Until then, keep it up and good luck!

Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)

Re: October Monthly Goal Meet-Up

Andrew VonDonkeyhammer — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 22:06:00 -0000

Goals for October:

1. Stay sane for my last month on the island.

2. Quit chewing...again.

3. Make a solid budget plan for my return to the cities.

4. Try to get a raise.

5. Start doing my daily pushups/situps again so I'm not so violently out of shape when I re-activate my LifeTime membership.

6. Sleep more.

Re: Pulling passion

Andrew VonDonkeyhammer — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 12:15:34 -0000

Someday my friend, we shall flawlessly execute a booyah of passion, after which we can say "i have seen the top of the mountain, and it is good."

Re: Omit needless words

thetylerhayes — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 14:44:13 -0000

Thanks very much Rosyn, very kind of you to drop by and speak up.